Recently, I learned I have gluten and dairy dietary restrictions. As someone who has made it to her twenties with no dietary restrictions this has really changed the way I approach dinner parties and going out for meals. In an effort to not draw attention to the changes or make others unsure of how to accommodate my dietary needs, I have found the best way to navigate the situation is to plan ahead!
Here are my tips for navigating social interactions around food as someone with dietary restrictions as well as my tips for hosts who may encounter a guest with a dietary restriction:
- Research the menu/restaurant before you go!
- With almost all restaurants having their menus online and so many restaurants aware of the common dietary restrictions, it is easy to take a look and find out what your options are before you arrive for the meal. This helps me to not feel like I am being put on the spot for taking too long to decide my order while also allowing me to know ahead of time the exact accommodations I need for my order.
- If you have trouble finding something on the menu before you arrive, call the restaurant and let them know you have dietary restrictions. Giving the host a heads up allows them to let the chef know and often they will do what they can to assist with your dietary needs.
- Alert the host of your dietary restrictions well before the gathering.
- Letting your host know far in advance, allows him/her to implement your dietary needs into the menu.
- Some individuals are unaware of how to cook for your dietary needs and as the person who knows your restrictions best, it may be better to keep the cooking in your own hands. When this is the best option, offer to bring your own dish! You can cook it along with the main meal and often times, other guests will not even realize your plate is something different.
- When sending in R.s.v.p. which requires a meal selection, choose the menu item that best fits your dietary needs then add a note of any accommodations needed so the chef is aware. (i.e. check off Salmon with vegetables then add to the side “Dietary Restriction: No gluten, no dairy”)
- Have a snack before you go!
- I have learned it is always best to be on the safe side when going out for a cocktail party, sporting event/concert, or similar large scale, non-seated dining events. Try as I might to scout out the menu beforehand, sometimes I simply do not know what options will be available to me. When this happens, I find it is best to have a protein filled snack before I go! That way, if I show up and I am unable to eat any of the dishes being served, I will not be left starving; however, if there is something I can have, I am not so full that I cannot enjoy it.
Although having dietary restrictions can be challenging at times, I try to think of it in a positive way: Now that my foods have to be different, I have been learning to cook/bake with a lot of alternatives and trying out new dishes! I hope these tips help everyone navigate personally having dietary restrictions or hosting someone who does!